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I'm OK You're OK!


There's a fake hierarchy or continuum ranging from #WINNERS down to #LOSERS that we buy into online and by extension in life. #Hustle and WIN. #PERSIST and WIN. Get up at dawn and WIN. Closers WIN. Most views Win. Popular WINS..............................And yet it isn't so. In this game there are winners and losers. This is a competition based on ego preservation. Competition and collaboration are poor bedfellows and collaboration is a far better game.  Who are the losers when we close the deal, purchase the toy, get to #1? Everyone else - that's the message we're conveying. The healthiest and happiest of us are identified by how we respond to the success of others not by the results showing up in our own lives.  One of the first books to make an impression on me was "I'm OK, You're OK" (#Thomas_A._Harris 1969) That's the eponymous message regardless of the results we're currently producing. Chase alternate results, encourage others to identify new horizons but be wary the fallout of buying into populist definitions of success.

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